Do This Before You….

by | Jul 1, 2019 | Mod 3 - Seeking Intimacy, Relationships with God | 0 comments

I’ve been reading through the four Gospels sequentially and I noticed what could be one of Jesus’ most consistent and powerful behaviors; a lesson for us. It’s no secret, but if you look at our behavior, someone would sure think it was. It’s not his relentless way of pounding the Pharisees with the truth as he tries to get them to look at themselves. It’s not how he heals and feeds thousands and thousands of people. It’s not his use of parables to illustrate deep concepts and truths. It’s not even his focus promoting the kingdom of heaven. And it’s seldom talked about at church.

It’s what he does before he does what he does…

Let’s take a look at a few examples…

  • Before Jesus Choses the Twelve Disciples: 12 One day soon afterward Jesus went up on a mountain to pray, and he prayed to God all night. 13 At daybreak he called together all of his disciples and chose twelve of them to be apostles. Luke 6 (NLT)
  • Before Jesus Feeds Five Thousand: 13 As soon as Jesus heard the news, he left in a boat to a remote area to be alone. But the crowds heard where he was headed and followed on foot from many towns. 14 Jesus saw the huge crowd as he stepped from the boat, and he had compassion on them and healed their sick…. Matthew 14 (NLT)
  • Before Jesus Walks on Water: 23 After sending them home, he went up into the hills by himself to pray. Night fell while he was there alone.24 Meanwhile, the disciples were in trouble far away from land, for a strong wind had risen, and they were fighting heavy waves. 25 About three o’clock in the morning[b] Jesus came toward them, walking on the water. Matthew 14 (NLT)
  • The Temptation of Jesus Before His Ministry Started: Then Jesus, full of the Holy Spirit, returned from the Jordan River. He was led by the Spirit in the wilderness,[a]where he was tempted by the devil for forty days. Jesus ate nothing all that time and became very hungry. Luke 4 (NLT)
  • Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane Before His Crucifixion: 36 Then Jesus went with them to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and he said, “Sit here while I go over there to pray.” 37 He took Peter and Zebedee’s two sons, James and John, and he became anguished and distressed. 38 He told them, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.”39 He went on a little farther and bowed with his face to the ground, praying, “My Father! …

What does Jesus do before each event? He goes off alone to pray, typically for an extended time, often while fasting and many times at night when others would not notice him. Ever think about why he did this? He was God incarnate after all. Why did he need to pray and fast? Why alone? The answer points to what I consider to be the foundational root of the universe and what holds it all together. Relationship. Before he did anything significant…

… Jesus grounded himself in intimate relationship with the Father.

Alone, Jesus reaches out to the Father in Heaven, seeking Intimacy; one on one time, just him and the Father. A time to be close. A special time. When you take a step back and think about this considering the triune nature of God you might realize that relationship is what God values most above all else. Jesus seems to crave this time, even doing things like sending the disciples away in a boat so that he could be alone with the Father. We may never know the full extent of what happened in these times, but they were clearly important to him, and based on what happened afterward, it’s not a stretch to believe that these times filled him. I believe Jesus is modeling a priority behavior for us…. fitting for someone who came to Earth to restore the intimate relationship between God and man that was broken back in Eden.

These dedicated times of devotion Jesus took seemed to be over and above his normal communication with the Father. I’m sure Jesus was in constant communication with the Father. He even said:

So Jesus explained, “I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself. He does only what he sees the Father doing. Whatever the Father does, the Son also does. John 5 (NLT)

Why would someone who talks with someone else all of the time, also want to have dedicated, extended time together? Think about this in your own relationships. When talking in the midst of the daily grind, we tend to talk about superficial things: What happened during the day, what the plans are for tomorrow, the news or current events. We don’t have time to push all of that aside and just be with each other; to ponder the bigger picture; to raise concerns or dream a little. Jesus makes this a priority because these times are quite possibly the most important times relationally. These are high impact times.

I remember my friend Brad suggesting that I go off for a day of prayer and fasting when I was struggling to figure out my career situation nearly 20 years ago. I went to a local abbey where they had day rooms available for this sort of thing. When I arrived, I could feel the awkwardness in my gut. It felt weird. I was shown to my room, I went in and stood there. “What do I do now?” I decided I should pray. So, I got on my knees and prayed for about 30 min. I got up asking, “Now what?” I read some scripture, I wrote in my journal, I prayed some more, I took a short nap…. I listened, I asked, I pondered, asking God “What do you want me to do? What is most important?” I listened and listened. It was awkward, but ultimately so powerful. This was about two years before I made my major career change (Director at medical device company to a Financial Advisor with a purpose), but I can say with 100% certainty, this was the pivotal point in starting my adventure with God. I look back on this time with awe. That time with God was incredible. My life has never been the same since that day. I have taken a day of prayer and fasting many times now, and it always ends up being pivotal. I’m not saying that I get some clear answer from God each time; often it seems to hit me sometime later. But, I can say that incredible things, miracles and changes have always happened following these times. Wow… Perhaps I have tasted a little of what Jesus desired so much.

When was the last time you took a dedicated day of prayer and fasting?

My simple survey says that almost no one has ever done this. So often, when I suggest it, it’s almost like people have never heard about doing something like this, let alone have they considered doing it. “Too freaky!” some may think. “What’s “freaky”?”, I ask? I tend to think that in this day and age, people are afraid of silence, time to think, of having no agenda in the midst of all sorts of pressures around. Is it really too freaky to spend time alone with God?

I was floating down a river with my wife Sue last year. It was so peaceful; warm sun, slight breeze, ducks floating around. Imagine it. She said, “Too bad we have to go back to reality later….” I said, “This is reality!” Isn’t it so easy to get life upside down? Dedicated alone time with God is a taste of reality. Busyness is one of Satan’s methods to keep us from God.

I can tell you one of my thoughts has always been, “I have too many other things to do.” Martin Luther puts this into perspective when he said this:

I have so much to do that I shall spend the first three hours in prayer.”

Too often the urgent is the enemy of the most important things; the reality.

Some have even expressed to me, “I don’t want do this and end up becoming a missionary in Africa!” My experience has been that God would much rather you being a missionary right where you are. Never let your imagination run too far ahead of you. Ironically, imagination’s power to excite you is often not as strong as its power to scare you back into your hole – it can keep you from doing anything significant.

A vital step in the Mission Curve™ Process is to positively disrupt your relationship with God, creating an environment of Intimacy. Jesus showed us that a Dedicated Day of Prayer and Fasting does this and perhaps is the most significant step you could take to start the Adventure God Made You For. Don’t think too long about taking this step —this is one of those times when you just do it!

Help me do what God has called me to do by letting me help you do what he is calling you to do.

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